Why Your Relationship Is Going To End

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But the thing is, is that it's not like I have some crystal ball that I look into and I'm like, ooh, the crystal is saying that your relationship is going to last for three months and that's it. No, it's just I look at certain things, I put this information into my. What I call my algorithm, and then it spits out an answer for me. And so if you followed me for a while, you listened to my podcast, you may have heard me talk about my algorithm, as my algorithm is just my knowledge, my wisdom, all the different things that I've experienced and I've seen, and either Personally through myself or through other people. And so that's what we are going to talk about today, why your relationship is going to end. Okay? Now, this isn't to be like a negative thing. This isn't to be a bad thing. This is actually to help you, okay? This is to help you to maybe think twice before getting into that relationship. Maybe think twice before getting into that relationship. So soon. Okay, that's a kicker. So that's a key thing right there. And maybe, you know, it'll. It'll help you look for better quality people. There's all kinds of things. So it's not to be a negative podcast, not to be just shitting on relationships and saying that relationships are bad. You shouldn't be in one. It is just to share with you things to look for in so that you do, if you do choose to go into a relationship, that you actually have a successful one. So here's the thing. I will see people all the time. Everybody's in a relationship. Everybody and their dog is in a relationship. And the thing is, is that whenever I find or hear about somebody getting into a relationship, I kind of roll my eyes. And it's. A lot of people think I'm a bit of an asshole for it. But the thing is, is that there's a reason behind that, and that's what I'm going to explain in this whole podcast as to why when I. When I hear somebody's in a relationship, I just, like, lame. Like, I just roll my eyes. I'm like, this is stupid. Okay? And so, but the thing is as to why. And the reason is because, like, a lot of times I will see that that situation is not a good idea. Like, you can see it from afar that that is not a good idea. And you just know. And I'm just honest. And I may even share with them, like, hey, look, I don't think that's a good idea, or, are you sure that's a good idea? I don't think that you should pursue that or go through with that. And a lot of times in this situation, like, I'm looked at as the bad person. I'm looked at as the. The asshole, the negative person. Why can't you just be happy for me? Blah, blah, blah. And you're just like, I'm just trying to help you at the end of the day. And really, at the end of the day, if you're just trying to help somebody and they think that you're an asshole for that, what's that say about them? Here's how I put it. Okay, let's say if I were to go out on a hike and I said, hey guys, I'm going to be going out for a hike and I'm really excited because I, I want to, I want to have like a barbecue, make a fire and kind of, you know, cook up a nice meal. When at the top of this hike, this mountain, and they're like, okay, cool, that's, that sounds awesome. And then you tell them your plan. You say, well, this is what I'm thinking. I'm going to go to the fish market, I'm going to buy a whole bunch of different fish, I'm going to put it in, into my backpack and I'm going to go through this hike. And when I get to the end of the hike, it's going to take a good six hours. And when I get to the end of this hike, I'm going to cook up a nice meal at the top of the mountain. So then I may look at that and say, hey, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So your idea is to go to the fish market, get a whole bunch of fish, stinky fish, and walk through bear country for six hours. And then at the end of that six hour trip, you're going to then cook all this fish at the, at the top of this mountain, in bear country in six hours, deep into bear country. That, that's your idea? They're like, yeah, yeah, it is. Sounds great, doesn't it? You're like, no, it doesn't. And then you're made to be an asshole for saying that. Like, why do you have to be so negative? Why can't you just let me be happy? Yes, it's, it's, it's one thing to be, to do the things that you, that will make you happy. Yes, that's, that's one thing, but it's another thing to do the things that are just going to straight up, you know, kill you. Like being eaten by a bear. Okay? So that's kind of how I break it down is that I see these so called quote unquote relationships and I already know and there's a reason why I know. There's all different kinds of factors. And the thing is that, you know, I, I could know the person. I could know what they're like, I could know what their personality is like. I may know the other person as well, that they are getting into a relationship. I may know that person. So I know their, their personality. I know their personality. I know the other person's personality. I know what this person is like. I take all these different things into consideration, and then when I factor that all in, then that spits out an answer for me and says, this is a good idea or this is not a good idea. And in today's world, it seems like 99.9% of the time, it's not a good idea. Okay? It just isn't. The things that people do. And we're going to talk all about this, trust me. Like, I have a. I have a. I have a pretty small piece of paper here written with a bunch of notes on it. I literally probably could have filled up this whole entire notebook that I have next to me, okay. Rather than just this one sheet of paper. But I do want to try and keep this podcast under an hour, and so that's the goal. But I could literally talk for hours on this subject, and it's just wild. So let's get to it. Okay, so there's the thing, okay? Somebody may. Let's see the different examples. The different examples is, let's say people are. People aren't. They're not thinking things through, okay? When they get into a relationship, they're not thinking things through. They're not thinking clearly. I knew this one girl, actually. I know two girls like this, okay? Literally two girls. So one of them, actually, both of them were dating a guy. So there's not the same guy. They're just. They did the exact same thing, okay? So they were each dating a guy, built a relationship around that, and then, turns out it wasn't so good. And then they broke up with that person, and then that girl then is out, and she's kind of exploring into the dating world, you know, seeing this guy, seeing that guy. No judgment, okay? She's just doing her thing, okay? She's out there, she's doing her thing, whatever. But the thing is, with women, unfortunately, especially when you get into, like, small towns, like where I'm from, what happens is there's this, like, everybody and their dog is in a relationship, and if you're not in a relationship, there's something quote unquote, wrong with you. And so this kind of builds, especially if you're a woman, okay? So women feel this pressure a lot. So. So this girl, she's out there, you know, exploring her options and doing whatever, and. But the thing is, is that guess who's kind of tailing along the way over the years, right? The last guy. Right? So what happens is she's kind of in here, she's there, she's everywhere, you know, and like I said, no judgment. She's living her life. But she then gets to a point where she's kind of thinking of like, oh, I can't really. I can't really find the guy. There's all these dweebs out here. Like, I'm just elbow deep in the fucking shit with these idiots. I don't know what to do. But then all of a sudden, guess who was there? Okay, here comes fucking Hiro. He's. He's been there the whole time. And then what happens is she gets back into a relationship with this guy. Now, I'm not judging her for this. Am I judging her for this? Just lack of knowledge. Okay, I understand as to why this happens. It's because in those moments when you're down, you forget about the bad, and you're just thinking about all the good that you want, and you think, I want this. I want this, and I want this and this person. We had that. We had that, and we had that, and we can have that again. And they're right here, and he's saying, yes, we can. We most definitely can. And she says, okay, let's do that. Bingo, bango. They get into another relationship. Years later, I see this, and right away, I'm already saying, let's say six months to a year, tops. Now, I will say it lasted a hell of a lot longer than I imagined. I'm a little ruthless. I will kind of not necessarily put actual bets down, but I will already know. I'll be guessing in my head as to six to 12 months. That's. That's how long. But it lasted a lot longer than I thought. Okay, we're talking about forever home kind of shit. Like, literally those words had come out of her mouth. Forever home, once again, that's another term that I roll my eyes at. And so, lo and behold, I think it lasted, like, two years, maybe. Maybe more. But then all of a sudden, guess who's not dating this guy anymore? And why? Well, basically, because everything that was before was the same, the exact same. And they were trapped. And then they were in that cycle, that vicious cycle once again, and they couldn't get out of it. And then they finally were able to get out of it. Now, if this person would have came to me, okay, they actually did come to me, like, 10 years ago when the relationship was first rocky. And I didn't. I wasn't. I don't try to, like, push people and be like, no, you should get out of the relationship. Relationship suck. It's terrible. No, I try to give people as neutral advice as possible, try to help them see certain things about themselves, about the relationship. Like, if they're talking about it and they're saying, oh, yeah, you know, we have a good time. It's. It's really good. And, you know, like, sometimes he's a little, you know, and she just kind of goes into, like, the truth starts to come out, but she's kind of like trying to cover it up or lie to herself. I will kind of like uncover that and say, well, you mentioned this. Like, let's talk a little bit deeper into that. There's. There's something there. And then all of a sudden, she's able to see the actual light outside of this cloud that has been put on top of her from this guy. And so she would have come back to me and said, hey, look, I'm thinking about getting back into a relationship. He's. He says he's changed, he's done this, blah, blah, blah, blah. I probably would have said, no, just don't do it. I know those types of guys. I know the. The types of guys from that town. I know. I know what it's like to. To forget about all the bad and think about all the good. I know all about that. And I know how easy it is to just fall back into comfort, which is what it is. And next thing you know, you're going to fall right back into what you left in the first place. I understand that. So this is why I can see these things and know that they're just not going to last. Now, now, it's great. I hope that she has learned something from this and, you know, moves on and prospers and everything like that. The reason I share this is that I want you who's listening to this to be able to maybe think maybe you're in a certain situation like that and you're thinking, yeah, I do easily lose track of the bad, and I only think the good. And then all of a sudden, I'm back with this person. And that's why people get back into relationships with the same person over and over and over again is because that's a vicious cycle happens, and we don't recognize it, so we have to be able to recognize it. So I know this other girl. Same town, okay? These girls are notorious. Same thing. She's off with one guy, doesn't work out, leaves that relationship. She's now living her life, doing her thing, meets this other guy. I know this girl, and I know the guy that she meets. I went to high School with this guy. The guy's an absolute dweeb. And I'm thinking, no, no, this. No, she is too good for this guy. This guy's an absolute dweeb. And these two. So, huge red flag. I already know who this guy is. Absolute dweeb, red flag. I already know. He pro. She has no idea, okay? But at the same time, I can't come in and say, don't date this guy, okay? He's an absolute dweeb. Because, like, I know what it's also like to be in that situation 99% of the time. She's not going to listen. And so. But these two. Here's some more red flags that pop up. You should have seen these two on Facebook. It'd be like, oh, sweetheart, I was just at work and I thought about you. I saw this cute face photo of this dog, and it reminds me of the time we went to that restaurant where I told you that I loved you for the very first time. And like. Like, literally posting this on the other person's Facebook. And this was, like, back and forth, back and forth. Like this. It made you want to vomit. Like, you guys are disgusting. And I. That's a huge red flag. Now, I'm not saying there's. There's nothing wrong with, like, really being into the person that you. You. You are with, but you. There is getting lost in that feeling. I know what that's like. Okay. You might meet someone, and then, like, your whole world just flips upside down and you're thinking, oh, my God. Like, this is. This is the one. This is the person. And I'm gonna. I'm gonna change my whole trajectory of my life just. Just to be with this person. And so when. When we don't keep control of our emotions, we can let it run rampant, and then we can lose ourselves in this. And when we do this, lose total control of seeing anything of logic. We're just running on emotion at this time. It's just. We're just running with the high. And it. It's great. It feels amazing. Don't get me wrong. I. I know it. I understand it, but we can't see anything. We can't see the bad things. We can't see the anything. Like, anything. Those little small nuances that we should be able to see. Those little red flags that pop up, we don't see them. And the reason that we don't see them is because we're too goddamn in love. So I'm just trying to think of, like, there's. There's something else I want which is very similar. The quote unquote word love, okay? And I use quote unquote for a very good reason. Do you remember when let's say like a 14 year old girl, like picture a 14 year old girl who's just like, oh my God, I'm in love. It's the most amazing thing ever. And then maybe you're a parent, maybe you're, you know, an older brother or whoever you are, and you're like, no, you're not in love, okay? You don't know what love is. What you're feeling is not love. And they're like, you don't know what you're talking about. Oh my God, it's amazing. This right here, this is what I call quote, unquote love. And that's what these two had, okay? They were in love with each other. And when you're like this, you don't see any sense. And this is why like 14 year old girls will fall in love with their 50 year old science teacher because they're in love. Oh my God. And you as a parent, you're supposed to be there to protect them so that they can actually see with some sense because they're brain is not like functioning properly in this moment and nothing you say can pretty much change that. So for me, myself a lot of times why I don't get involved with women is because so many times they fall in love, quote, unquote love. And I fucking hate this. I just hate it. It's the worst thing. I can see it from a mile away. And the reason that I hate this is because when a woman is like this, there's no. She becomes very. And ladies, I'm sorry to make it sound like I'm harshing on you. I really just want you to be able to understand and maybe even recognize it within yourself so that you don't fall in love and then that you do have some sense with yourself. And it's okay to fall in actual love. There's a difference, okay, There's a difference. We're going to talk all about that. But the thing is that when a woman falls in quote, unquote love, she now becomes very unrational. Okay? Now this may very well happen on the men's side, but I can tell you I don't date a whole lot of men, if any. So I don't know what happens on that side. So I'm just giving you my perspective. And I know that 66% of you are mostly women who listen to this podcast. And gentlemen, if you're listening to this as well, like, you can get a lot out of this as well. So I don't get involved with a whole lot of women because they do this and I see it, and I see it from a mile away. And once I see it, it's just like me and my friend, we talk about this all the time and it's actually kind of cool because she's a girl, I'm a guy, and she gives it to me from like the female's perspective. You know, I talk about it from the guy's perspective. And so she can kind of see, we can see both angles from each side and we can kind of like have a good conversation about it because I might. I can only see it from my side. And then when she brings in her perspective, I can maybe bring some light in there. So I actually really like the two perspectives. But we call it the ick. You get the ick, okay? When you see it in their eyes and you're just like, oh, God, you get the ick, ladies, you know what I mean? When you, when I say you get the ick, the guy has crossed that line and now you've got the ick, you're like, oh, my God, don't, no, don't, don't say that. Don't, no, don't. Just back off a little bit, okay? You're. Oh, my God, you're smothering me right now. Just get away from me. And so you get the ick, right? That's the falling in love kind of part. I hate this. And then all of a sudden, when that happens, what is that? They're all of a sudden, like I said, it becomes unrational. The person becomes unrational. You're not texting back fast enough. You're not, you're not spending enough time with them. You're. There's just all these things that happen, I've told you in different podcasts. I knew this one girl where I was working one day a week, so I had plenty of time to chat with her and text with her. And then all of a sudden my job sent me away because obviously they're not going to pay me a full time wage working one day a week. So they sent me away where I would be working five to six hours, five to six days a week, on call, random hours. And you know, like, I'm bagged as shit. And she's getting mad at me because I'm not texting her. I'm hot and cold. She says, And I'm like, are you fucking serious right now? You fucking serious right now? I'm like, I am. Literally, you are the one person who should know that I went from working one day a week to six days a week, okay? My job is crazy. My job is like, I can get killed if I do not pay attention in my job, okay? And here you are shitting on me because I'm not texting you as much as I was before. And that's where like, my brain just explodes and I just lose my. And it's because when a woman gets to that point where she's in love, okay, like I said, I'm not talking about real love. We can talk, we'll talk about that afterward. But when she falls in love, she becomes rational. Like, she doesn't even see things straight. She just expects everything to be revolved around her. And when a woman gets to this point, like, she may not right away, it may take a little bit, and then all of a sudden, bam, you see it and you can. That's when you get the ick. You're like, oh, God. So anyways, these two love birds, they're on Facebook and they're just making you want to vomit right away. Red flag right there. So I already know who this guy is. He's a dweeb. And I know her. She's a really great gal. She's smart, she's attractive, she's got a lot going for her. She's very confident. And then there's this dweeb. No, that's not going to work out. I already know that. So the thing is, is that plus seeing all this like lovey dovey bullshit on Facebook, they're just too lost in it with each other to. Nobody is seeing any sense whatsoever. And there's just like too much of it. Nobody's seeing any logic, any, like, nothing. And when you're too running with that too much, there's just this. This love bomb is just going to explode and it's just going to leave everybody gone. That's exactly what happened. Unfortunately, it happened after, let's say they had a baby together. Oh my God. I just. You just can't make this shit up. You just literally can't make this shit up. I just, when I found that out, I was like, oh my God. And you could see there was a point where it stopped. The lovey dovey, everything, it was done and it just. And I think it was. I don't know, I think it was like a Christmas photo that was different. You could Tell. And so, so the point here is not getting lost and not falling in love. Like, love, okay? The love. You can fall in love. And a lot of people think that I'm against love. I don't believe in love. And the thing is, is that I actually very much do believe in love. I. I will fucking challenge many people on the fact that I probably know more about love than most people out there. Most of these people who are married, who have kids, who have families, and, you know, they say, oh, love you, babe. Love you. Oh, my God. Love you. Like, who say this shit. I guarantee you that I know far more about love than these people. Bet you so much that I do. And why? Because I've learned and I've lived it. Like, actually lived it. I've experienced it. I've known the difference between lovey dovey, bullshit love and actual real hard love. I know it, I've seen it, I've experienced it, I've felt it, I've expressed it. Whereas these people, 99.9% of the time, they haven't. They just had a grocery list and they were just like, okay, next on the list. I need a relationship. Okay. Hey, you there. Are you looking for a relationship? They're like, actually, let me just take out my list. Yeah, I am, actually. Well, here I am. Well, that was easy. Okay, let's do it. Bam. And that's it. Like, that's fucking it. That's literally it. And that kind of leads me into my next point, is people just jumping right into relationships. So you want to know why your relationship is going to end? Why I know that your relationship is going to end? It's because you're just jumping straight into it. I knew this one girl. This was like, what, four years ago? I don't even know how many years ago now. I. I think we met up like four times, went for like a hike, went dinner for one time. Just kind of like a. We had a little bit of time, was like, hey, let's just like actually finally meet. That we did went for a hike. I think we went for a walk. I don't. Whatever. It was like less than I could count on one hand the amount of times that we actually met and the amount of time, the amount of hours that we actually spent with each other would probably fit on one hand as well. And so let me ask you a question. How well do you know somebody if you've only known them, actually spent less than five hours with them in person? Okay. And you've only met with them less than Five times. How well do you know somebody like that? How well you don't. You have no idea. So what the hell are you doing getting into a relationship with somebody like that? This is what's crazy to me. So I like, I work a crazy job, crazy hours, crazy job, like fucking 80 hours a week. And you know, like, I came back, what, three o' clock this morning, okay. And went to bed, got up at like 9am and here I am today, okay? My hours are so. It's so crazy, I don't even know if it's afternoon or morning half the time. So anyways, once again, girl falls in love, right? And I don't reply to a text. Remember how they, they become irrational when they do fall in this fake love? I don't reply to a text in time. And why? Because my hours are crazy. They're absolutely nuts. And then all of a sudden, I get this huge message about how we shouldn't be dating anymore, we're gonna have to break up, blah, blah, blah. And I'm sitting there like, what the fuck? We were dating. Like, I just. I don't even know you better yet. You don't even know me. What the hell is wrong with you? And like this, you have no idea. Like I said, I have a little tiny piece of paper with some notes on it right now. I literally could fill up this whole notebook that I have in right now with all the kind of. That we are talking about today. But I want to keep this podcast as short as possible. But, huh, it is crazy. If you want to hear more, I do have another really good podcast called the best relationship you'll hear and it's a few episodes ago. It's really good. Talks a lot more, A lot more about this kind of stuff. So anyways, yeah, the. Apparently we were dating and we, we needed to break up and because I wasn't, you know, I wasn't serious about the relationship and I'm just like in shock at this. Like, in shock. Fuck. When. When did we. What? But my point is like, how well do you know somebody after meeting with them for less than five hours? You don't know somebody. You don't know somebody after a month. You don't know somebody after three months. So what are you doing getting into a relationship? I have, like, tried to plan a coffee with people. Let's say they were of the opposite sex. I'm like, hey, you know, like, let's get together for a coffee. You know, we hadn't like gotten together yet, haven't met yet or Whatever. Or maybe we, like, did meet somewhere and, you know, exchanged numbers and was like, hey, let's get together. And then all of a sudden, they're talking about, well, I, I don't know. Like, you, you live there. I live here. I'm just thinking, like, how could we make this work? And I, I, I'm like, holy. Calm down. Calm down. Calm your fucking tits right now. Okay, first of all, thank you for considering, you know, a future with me. But second of all, that's absolutely fucking crazy because neither one of us even know each other, so how can we even, like, be thinking about that in the, in this moment? All I said was, let's go for coffee. Okay? We met the other day. We exchanged numbers. We seem to have fancied each other then, so let's just go for a coffee. Like, that's it. Like, it's just so many times, like, it doesn't stop at just coffee. They're already planning the fucking wedding. They're already planning the honeymoon. They're already planning the next 80 years together with you. And you're like, what the fuck is wrong with you people? And I'm sorry, ladies, to be to sound so harsh, but, like, this is reality. This is real, okay? Like, all the stuff that I talk about on my podcast is real life experience. Like, like I said, there's a reason I just, I work 80 hours a week, and people are like, you're crazy. Like, how can you work so much? Like, I enjoy it, okay? It makes sense. I go to work, I do my thing. I'm good at it. I enjoy it, and I get paid very well for it. But, you know, if you, if you put that same time and energy into a woman, you know, she. She gets all crazy. She gets all these, like, all this shit, and, like, she's mad at you for no reason. There's all this bullshit, and it's like, do you think I want to deal with that? No. I go to work, I enjoy it. I come back, I get a hefty paycheck, and then at the end of the day, I get to spend that paycheck however I feel on things that make me happy, okay? On things that aren't gonna, you know, shit on me for not texting them fast enough, whatever it is. So, like I said, I don't want to seem so harsh, but I just want to bring some reality to this. And maybe I'm not saying that you do this, but maybe you know somebody who might do this. Maybe you know somebody who's in a vicious Circle like this. Maybe you might recognize there's just a smidge, bit of this in you. And you might even catch yourself the next time that you. You're in this situation. You're like, whoa, I didn't quite understand when he was talking about it, but now I do because I just did it right there. And that's my goal for the You. That's my goal for you, and that's what I want, is for you to be able to either have this knowledge, to give this knowledge to somebody else, to be able to have this knowledge for yourself so that you don't run into these issues and that you can better prosper in your life. That is the end goal. The end. The end goal is like, I'm not here just shitting on you. And like I said, I only have it from my experience. You may have the exact same experience, but on the other aspect, dating men, I don't have that aspect, okay? So jumping right into relationships, it is just wild out there, what happens. And I'm going to tell you some crazy, crazy stories. So I knew. I knew this. I knew this other girl, okay? And then all we were like, you're like, I just knew of her. You know, she's like a friend over there. And then all of a sudden, she, like gets into this relationship with this guy. And don't get me wrong, good looking, strapping fella, right? But the thing is, is that I knew that it wasn't going to last. Why? Because it just jumped right into it. I knew. And then guess what? All of a sudden, she's like posting these photos, like, oh, my God, look at us. Date night. Yeah. You forever. Forever one. He's the one. I'm like, oh, make me vomit in my mouth again. Once again, another red flag. Okay, she's in love, right? She's in love. And guess what? Jumps right into a relationship. So, red flag. Jumping straight into a relationship, another red flag. You've fallen in love. You can't even think straight, okay? And then next thing you know, shows a photo of the ring. Oh, my God, he asked me to marry him. And then, like, all the stupid friends are like, oh, my God, you're so lucky again, where I just want to be like, look, I don't think that's a good idea. But you're looked at as the asshole. I'm always the asshole. But he's. He's the hero that we need, okay? And if. If that's got to be me, if I got to be the. I got to take on that Burden of being the. But being the person who actually sees some sense in this world and has to carry that burden of people hating on me and on me because, you know, thinking that I'm just an. And all these different things just because I'm. To help people. I. I can handle that. Okay? I can handle that. I can. I can take on that burden. I'd rather be that. I'd rather be that. Than to. To sit there and be, like, clapping you along and be like, yeah, that's awesome. That's fantastic. I'm so happy for you. Yeah, I'm not. Because it's not going to last. I'm sorry. It's not going to fucking last. And guess what happens? Guess what happens. Boom. Fucking gone. Deleted all the photos off the social media, everything. He doesn't even exist anymore. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I was right, I tell you, I would be fucking. I'd be fucking millionaire 10 times over. 100 times over. Okay? Seriously. Seriously. And the thing is, is that it's not. It's not like I'm. Like I said, I don't have no crystal ball. I'm just giving you the straight up facts so that when the next time you're thinking about a relationship, you're thinking, whoa, are we moving too fast for this? This is feeling really good right now. Am I losing myself in this relationship right now? Should I maybe, you know, take a cold shower and fucking shock myself so that I can actually see some sense? Or are we just gonna, like, run with this? And then all of a sudden, next thing you know, we have a baby together and then we're, you know, he's just another baby daddy. Oh, my God. This shit is just crazy. I just. Okay, so that same person deletes him. He doesn't exist anymore. Guess what? Bam. Right into the fucking next one. Right into the next one. How many of you want to bet that that one's not going to last? How many of you want to bet? Get your bets in. Okay, you're an asshole if you bet. You're an asshole if you think that it's not going to last. Okay? You're negative. You think that it's not going to last. But the thing is, is that it's not. It's not being negative. A lot of people always try to twist my shit into being negative. Nathan, you're so negative. You're so cynical. You just hate marriages and family and blah, blah, blah. Like all this bullshit thing is that. No, it's got nothing to do with that it's got everything to do with being a realist. It's the exact same thing. Let's say I went to the casino and I put a hundred thousand dollars on the roulette table just on a random ass number. Now, if I hit that number, I'm gonna. 32 times my money. It's gonna be fucking amazing. But what are the chances of that? If you come to the table next to me and you're like, nathan, I don't think that's a good idea. Like, that's. That. That's not a good idea, Nathan, I don't think that. I really think you should think this through. You really? Like, I'm not going to sit there and yell at you and be like, oh, my God, you're so negative. You're so cynical. Like, you're a bad friend. Why can't you support me? I'm just trying to be happy. No, a good friend would say, I don't think that's a good idea. I think you should slow down. I think you should just like, no, don't do that. On a similar note, it's like, people who have babies. I have. What would I say, you know when people say that? They. They're like, oh, my God, we're having a baby. And everyone's like, oh, my God, Congratulations. Congratulations. Oh, my God, that's so amazing. I. Oh, I can't even, like. I can't even, like, drum up the energy, the. The words to be able to say congratulations. Like, I just can't. Because I've always said, what is so congratulations about that? What is. Seriously, what is. You put the P and the V, okay, You let it do its thing, and here you are having a baby. It's probably one of the easiest things ever make a goddamn apple pie than it is to make a goddamn fucking baby. Facts. Fight me, okay? Fight me. Literally, you know how many apple pies I've made? You know. You know how many fucking apple pies I've made? You know how many apple pies I've fucked up? You do one little thing wrong in an apple pie, that apple pie is okay, have you seen, I would say most of the people who are out there having kids, but if you got them to make a goddamn apple pie, you think they can make an apple pie? No. Harder to make a goddamn apple pie than it is to have a fucking baby. So tell me what is so congratulations about that? I just hate it. It's the same thing with. With like, somebody buys a truck or something, they buy a New car. And everyone's like, oh, my God. Congratulations. You're like, what is so. Congratulations on that? What are we congratulating them on? Congratulations. You just got yourself into 30, 40, 50, $70,000 in debt. Congratulations. You just invested in one of the worst investments that you could invest in. Congratulations. 25% of your value just dropped off the second you drove it off the lot. Stop me when I get to the point where we're. You know, of the thing that we're actually congratulating them for. Congratulations. You held a job for two years and, you know, some. Some dealership ran your shitty credit through like, a hundred different places and just. Just took your. Took your credit and just drug it through the mud until it found some shady ass place to say, we will give you money. We'll give you money at 15% for this $40,000 car. And you said, yes. Is that what we're congratulating on? Like, please stop me when I get to the point as to where we're congratulating, please. Congratulations is fighting the urge of marketing, fighting the urge of keeping up with the Joneses and going and buying a humble car that you don't need to brag about anything. You don't need to show off. I make 100, what, $140,000 a year, and I drive a fucking. How much was that? Like, $11,000 vehicle? It's a 2007. Paid cash with it. Walked in, said, I want that. Here we go. Boom. Payments? No. Insurance, Barely. Like, do I have anybody to impress? No. Could I walk into a dealership right now and buy the biggest, baddest fucking vehicle that is out there? Probably. Do I want to be paying 1500-2000amonth just to have four wheels on the ground? No, definitely not. Absolutely not. Do I need to impress somebody that I don't give a shit about? No, I don't. So congratulations is congratulations for not falling for the marketing. Congratulations for not keeping up with the Joneses. That's some fucking congratulations right there. Congratulations for going your whole life, realizing that maybe kids is not your thing and not having kids. Now there's some fucking congratulations for you. Now we kind of get. Got off a little bit off topic, but here's the thing. I'll leave you with just a little, little thing, then we'll move on. Let's say you knew somebody who had $100,000 in credit card debt, and they come to you and they're like, oh, my God, you have. We have some big, exciting news for you. We have to Tell you. And you're like, oh, what is it? And they're like, we just. We just got. We found another bank that would give us another credit card. They gave us $15,000. Can you believe that? Like, wait, wait, what? He's like, yeah, we found another bank and they gave us a credit card for $15,000. Okay, what about your, like, other credit cards? Like, did you pay those off? No, no, we still have those. And so. But now we've got this one, and we can spend with this one now. Okay, yeah, you can, but don't you think it'd be a better idea to maybe not spend with that one and maybe, like, pay these ones off? Don't you think that would be a good idea? The reason I share this is because it's very similar. I want you to picture someone comes to you and says, we're having a baby. And maybe you know them, maybe you know their relationship, and their relationship's not the best. And you're like, oh, you're. You're having a baby with your. Your relationship. Yeah, things. Things have worked out. No, not quite. Oh, go. Oh, you're gonna. You're gonna hope that the baby helps with that. Okay. Yeah, that's a. It's quite the risk, but okay. It's the exact same fucking think. But for some reason, like, you're looked at as a bad person. If you were to, like, come up to someone who's like, are you fucking crazy? You're having a baby. You're having a baby. You haven't dealt with all this other shit in your life, and you think you're gonna bring life into this world. Are you fucking insane? And you, like, slap some sense into them. No, people don't do that because you're looked at as a bad person for that. But I would love that. But we do it in everything else. We do it in everything else, so why don't we do it in these certain things? We sit there, oh, congratulations. Wow, that's amazing. It's not. Congratulations, stupid. Anyways, getting a bit off topic. Getting a little out there, but it. It is all relevant. It is all absolutely relevant. So anyways, jumping straight into relationship, not jumping straight into relationships, and then jumping right back into another one. So this girl, like I said, you know, deletes the one guy and then, bam, right into the next relationship with the next one. And like I said, how many people want to bet that this one's not going to last? I guarantee you this one's not going to last. Okay, now does that make Me, some sort of, like, Nostradamus, like, prophet? No, it makes me. No, common sense. That's what it makes me. And I hope to share this with you so that the next time that you're thinking, like, oh, my God, this guy's so amazing, but maybe I should just, like, chill for a little bit. Let my ovaries not do the talking this time. Okay? Like, it's okay, guys. Ladies, you say that we think with our, you know. Well, you do too. You do too. I literally have. Actually, I'm gonna. It's gonna lead me into my next story. I know these secrets, and I can do these secrets if I wanted to, but the thing is, is that I can't. I. I. I don't. So anyways, I met this one girl, and we were, like, chatting and everything, and we were planning on meeting, but then, like, you know, things came up and whatever, and I had to, like, be out of town. And because we hadn't met up soon enough, she was. She says to me, like, oh, this. This won't work because we haven't. We haven't met already. And, you know, like, you're busy all the time. Like, yeah, I'm fucking working, okay? I'm providing. And so she then says, well, maybe we should just be friends first. And I was like, wait, wait, what? Be friends first? So you want to be. You want to be in a relationship before we're even friends? And I was just, like, shocked. I was absolutely shocked. So here's the thing. We kind of like, she totally just, like, lost interest, whatever. And I was like, whatever. I'm like, you know what? I guarantee you that if I told this chick everything she wanted to know, I could have her as my girlfriend before ever seeing me, before ever meeting me. Fucking guarantee it. Watch me. So that's exactly what I did. So I got a new number. Well as through an app, and set up a profile. And for those of you before you start judging me, okay, I did it for science, okay? For science. I did it to prove a point. This is. This is. What I've explained before is, like, when you come from another planet, like me, and you come to a planet like this one, this totally up world that we live in, you want to try and figure out how these earthlings live? How do they think. How do you try and fit into this world and you try to understand them, and how you do that is sometimes you got to run social experiments into better understanding these life forms here. So that's what I do sometimes to better understand people that's that's why I have such a deep knowledge on all the subjects that I talk about, is because I deep dive into these topics and sometimes I may run social experiments on certain individuals. Now, they are all kinds, and it's just how you understand people and that's why people come to me for advice is because they say, because I have such an in depth knowledge about things. And they're like, how do you have such an in depth knowledge? Because I do things like this so that I can have this understanding, so that I can then share this understanding with you so that you can have a better life. So before anybody judges me on catfishing a woman, okay, Just know I did it for science. So anyways, here's the thing. Got a new number, set up a profile, had my hypothesis. I said, this is what I'm gonna do. So I meet the person online and we start texting. I am telling her everything she wants to know. I'm serious about a relationship. I want to settle down. What did I say? I said, my last girlfriend cheated on me. And you know I would never do that. And you. I was just telling her all those, like, hitting all those points. Hitting all those. She's like, yeah, oh, my God. Like, I respect the relationship so much. I can't believe she would do that. And. And just everything, like, made me want to puke every time I was sending a text message. So anyways, it took me, I'm pretty sure it was five days. Five days for her to be my girlfriend. I straight up said, you know what? After talking to you so much, and this was all through text, she never heard my voice. She never saw an actual photo of me. She only saw the photos that I posted up. And she had never. Yeah. Never seen me, Seen a video. She never seen. Heard my voice. None of that. All through text. Took me five days. And I just said, you know, we've been talking for so much here. And I got to say, like, I know that you're the one. I know that you're the one for me. I know it. And I want you to be my girlfriend. I'm 100% serious. And she was like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. It's amazing. I do. I do want to be your girlfriend. I was like, oh, my God. Are you serious right now? Absolutely wild. Blew my mind. Blew my whole mind. Well, it's. I wasn't surprised because I knew I could do it. And I always tell. I always said that if you told a woman all the things that she wanted to hear, you could have her eating out of the palm of your hand. And I know that sounds harsh, but, ladies, I. I tell this to you because I want you to know that it shouldn't be that easy. It shouldn't be that easy. You may be thinking, like, how the heck could this girl have wanted this? Literally. I literally did this. I swear to God. I swear on my mother's grave that I did this in five days, texting only. She became my girlfriend, and she was so ecstatic to do it. And then we were supposed to meet. And how did I break it off to her? She asked for a photo of me at work. And by this point, we're, hey, babe, you know, hey, darling, I love you. Every time I sent a text, I was just vomiting in my mouth. So she's like, I'm gonna have a bath right now. And, you know, I can't wait. I hope you have a good shift, sweetheart. And, you know, blah, blah, blah. I wrote up this whole text, and this whole text was just basically telling her that it shouldn't be this easy, that she should really think about her actions, about what she had just done. And really, at the end of the day, it was. The end goal is. I hope that she learned something from it. That is my end goal of it. And, like, that's. That's how I tried to word it in that way so that she would be able to see that. Look, this. I worded it in a way that she knew who it was from, that it was from my original account that was actually from me. And so because I had kind of just like mentioned some things that we had talked about before, and so she would know that that was actually me. So just the way that I had worded it, and it was just basically saying that it shouldn't be this easy. If it was this easy for me, imagine what somebody else can do, and they won't be as they may go forth with it. You know, they may get in there. You know, this is how women get into situations where men say these things. They do these things, they make you fall in love with them, and then all of a sudden, you're sleeping with them, they get what they want, and then they leave. I could, like, even though I couldn't have done it in this one, because I used different photos and everything. But the thing is, is that I could have done it with my real profile if I would have, if I wanted to do that. But the thing is, I don't want to do that. I didn't want to do that. I Just wanted to talk to someone cool, right? But so that's the thing is running social experiments like this. And I share this with you because. And this is actually, that was the second time. The first time I actually did something like, this was this one girl, it was like years ago, and she had. I was like, I'm like, so tell me. I'm like, good looking girl, Seem like you're smart. Seem like you got a head on your shoulders. Like, why are you single? Why are you here? Like, you know, there's a lot of guys out there looking for a relationship. Tell me what's up. And then she said, well, you know, I'm just looking for a guy who's confident, who's honest, who's driven, who's charming. Charming and yada yada. Like, she, she named off like six things. And I was like, oh. I'm like, but that just seems like that, that'd be pretty easy to find. She says, you'd be surprised. I'm like, oh, okay. I'm like, well, I'm pretty charming. And I would then say something about myself that would define that. And she's like, oh, that's cute, you know? And I'm like, well, that's. That's one, right? She's like, yeah, like, okay, well, I'm pretty driven. And that's because of this. And I would tell her about something about myself which would portray that I'm driven. She's like, yeah, you are like, that's two, right? Yeah, that is two. Well, I'm pretty honest and straightforward because of this. And I would once again explain something. I wasn't lying. I was telling her the truth. But the thing is, is that I was just. I just took her roadmap and I filled it in. As easy as that? Just 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Just. I just did this over and over again. I'm honest because of this. I'm sensitive because of this. Whatever. The six things that she had listed off, I just listed those off. And then by the end of it, holy smokes, like, she was head over heels. She was wanting to meet. Like, she's like, oh my God, like, we should get together. Like, what are you doing tomorrow night? Like, we should, like. And then I was just. Once again, that was another social experiment. And that's when I was like, wow, this shouldn't be this easy. It most definitely shouldn't be this easy. Unfortunately, it is. And so I. Then the next message I said was, I'm going to be straightforward and honest. Because that was one of her things that she had said, she. I want to. I want a guy who's straightforward and honest. And I said, you know, I'm going to be straightforward and honest, but you're not going to like it. You say that you want that out of a man, but I'll tell you right now that, you know, you only want it to a certain degree, but when a man is actually straightforward and honest with you, you won't necessarily like it. And that's what I'm going to tell you right now. And I said, I basically just told her that all I did is I just checked off her list, as easy as that. And now here she was, you know, trying to, like, meet up with me, like just head over heels. And that's all it took. And I could have, you know, went forward with that and whatever, you know, if. If you. It's. It's like having a, let's say a. A really good skill. If you have a really good writing skill, you can use that for good or you can use. Use it for bad. And how you can use it for bad is you can write in a way that for, like, scams. Scams are very well written. Like, really good scams are very well written. They. They tap into people's emotions, they tap into people's fears and pains. And then people read these scams and then they invest money into these things. And the thing is, is that it's. A lot of it's done by writing, and someone was just good at writing, and unfortunately, they used it for evil. And so that's the same thing here, is that I know this skill. I have this skill. I. I know that I could use it for evil if I wanted to, but the thing is that I don't. And I had just basically mentioned, like, it shouldn't be this easy. And I hope that you take your time in getting to know somebody and not just like, fall head over heels for somebody just like that. Like, you don't know me, I don't know you. And so. So my point is, is just to be able to recognize these things maybe within yourself or maybe within other people that, you know, okay. And there's a lot that can gain out of this. No, I don't want to have to, you know, run social experiments on people in order to do certain things, but sometimes in order to understand people, that that's what you have to do. Like I said, the knowledge that I have is, is because I have done a lot in my life, and also I have taken the time to really understand People, what happens if I do this? What happens if I do that? Psychology, neuro, linguistic programming, like, influence, okay, Rapport, all these different kinds of things. Sales. Sales is a type of manipulation. Sales can be good, but it also can be used for bad. And that's the thing is that the. Like, for example, here's a really good. Here's a really good example. There's this guy online, and he created this profile. He created a fake guru profile on Instagram. He had like 20,000 followers. He bought all those followers. He. He took these photos, and he made this person look like they were making money through stock investing. And then people started messaging him, and he was like, yeah, I have this course. It costs this much. And then people started sending him money, and he did it as a social experiment to see, can I just create this fake profile and have people believe that I'm actually like this gangster guru online? And he found out. Yes. But you know what he did is he not only did he give back their money, he gave them back, like two or three times back their money. He took their money and then gave it back, like, two or three times. Because he can't run the full experiment without actually. Can I actually get money? Because it's one thing if people are just interested, but they don't give you money. It's another thing if people actually give you money and then you're sitting there like, holy shit, he actually gave you money. And so. So if you have this knowledge, you could use it for evil, but you could also use it for good. And that's the thing. So in order to better understand people and try and help and educate people, he also created this whole video of this thing and, you know, to help people and say, look, like, I. This is what I did. And a lot of people fell for it. So what does that say? Don't fall for the bullshit that's online. Think. All right, So I know, like, sometimes when I'm. When I'm talking about these things, a lot of times people will think that I'm negative or I'm doing bad things or. Or you shouldn't do that, or that's a terrible thing to do. And at the end of the day, no, I don't want to be, you know, catfishing a girl. I don't want to be having to do this shit. But sometimes you can't just tell people these things. Sometimes you have to show them. And so, like I said, at the end of the day, I hope they learned something, and I hope that, you know, they're off and they found the love of their life. They, you know, took what I had told them and they ran with it. And they, you know, are now living prosperously, like that is the end goal or they were just totally scarred from men, whatever. So, yeah, these people just, like, they don't get to know people. It is crazy. In this. In this world, like, people just jump straight into relationships. You don't know somebody. You can know somebody for like six months and you still don't know them. You can. You can even know yourself. And then you may think, you know, down the road that you want to be in a relationship, but you won't know until you know. And I always tell people this. You don't know what you don't know, and you won't know until you know. And what I mean is simply, let's say you wanted a dog, okay? How many times do we, like, Easter's coming up, okay? Do you know how many bunny rabbits get purchased? Because kids are like, oh, my God, I want a bunny. I want a bunny. And then parents are like, oh, my God, we gotta. We gotta give a bunny to our kid. And then they do. And then guess what happens to that bunny? Set free. It's fed to the dogs. It's. It's just like, you know, put outside, you know, kind of hushed. Happens every year. Every year. It's disgusting. So what's the difference between that and, you know, falling in love with some fucking loser just randomly without even thinking it through. Without even thinking, like, this is a real animal, I guess that kind of like, fits, you know, guy animal, but you're buying. You know, people will go see the movie Finding Nemo and then like, oh, my God, I want that fish. It's like, that is a real life animal. You have to take care of that thing. You have to clean its bowl. You have to. You have to feed it. You have to make sure that the water is a certain temperature. Like, there's so much to it. They go watch a movie about a dog and a puppy and they're like, oh, my God, I want to buy a puppy. I'll take care of it. I see. You know how much responsibility a dog is. I did house sitting last year for a whole bunch of dogs, okay? A whole bunch of different dogs, different houses. So much responsibility. That's why I don't want. That's why I don't want a dog. I love dogs. Doesn't mean I need one. I love them from afar, okay? But there's so much responsibility, and people will go out and they'll buy them just because they're cute and they fall in love with it. And then guess what happens to the dog? It's just, like, given away. This happens all the time in Bali. I went to Bali, and there's, like, the Bali dog. It's like just the. The. The one animal. It's a mutt, basically. Just runs around. You know, it's the kind of mutt dog that runs around. But if you get up into. Especially like up into the Ubud area, which is like the jungle, all the hippies go out there. It's a yoga kind of place, Eat, Pray, Love kind of area. You go up there and you start to see actual breeds. We're talking, like, say, Chihuahuas, maybe like, Pomeranians, Beagles. And they're, like, homeless. These poor. They're, like, rummaging through the trash, and they're all, like, raggedy and dirty and filthy. They're actual breeds of dogs. And it's so heartbreaking because you know that some motherfucker fell in love with that puppy, bought it. Even though they knew they were only going to be in Bali for, like, two weeks, they bought it. And then when they were leaving, they just let it out. They just left it. They left this poor thing. And people do this all the time, and it's just disgusting, and it's so sad to see. So what I'm saying is, before you make these rational, irrational decisions of getting into a relationship, buying a puppy, buying a rabbit for Easter, all. Any of these things, getting married. Oh, I got another story for you. Any of these things. Fucking think it through. Like, give your head a shake, okay, and think, am I actually seeing things clear? Do I actually want to put in the effort that this is actually going to take? Taking care of a dog is a lot of responsibility. It's disgusting what happens. And this is what people do. Get into relationships. And then all of a sudden, they're just. They're miserable and they're shocked. Why it doesn't work out. Well, why the fuck did you. Why do you think it didn't work out? You guys knew each other for, like, a day, and then you just happened to get into a relationship. Why do you think it didn't work out? You guys thought having a kid was going to be good for your relationship. That was already rocky. Like, what were you thinking? You weren't thinking, like, these are the reasons. Like, I look at this shit, and this is why I can look at a relationship. I can look at a couple, and I can say that's not going to last. Now, obviously, like, if it's people that I don't know, like, I'm. I can't say that, but if it's people that I know, then I can say it because I have a lot more information. But if you were to come to me and say, hey, I met this guy, and you kind of gave me the. Kind of gave me the rundown of the situation, I'd be able to have a pretty good picture, and I'd say, well, these are the things that I would look out for in your situation. But because I don't have, you know, firsthand knowledge of, you know, you or him, I can't give you a full recommendation. But I can just say that, you know, these are the things that I see right now, you know, and then I might be able to ask you more questions and say, well, what about this? What about this? You know, tell me more about this. To kind of gather more information so that I can get a better picture of it. And that's. That's how I. That's how I know. And then people always think that I'm some asshole, like, you know, just hating on relationships. And the thing is, like, I do talk a lot of shit about relationships because. Because people who get into these relationships, like, they just. They don't even think. Like I said, it's just a grocery list for them. I need a job. Okay, got that. I need a. I need an education. Got that. Okay. Oh, I need a. I need a relationship, apparently. Okay. And then they just, like, go and, like, check it off their list. So here's. I'll leave you with two more. So I knew this girl about 10 years ago, and she had gone to Vegas, and I was like, so how's Vegas? Like, how was it? You know? Did you have a good time? And I think it was, like her first time there was. She was like, yeah, it was great, you know, and, like, did a lot of fun things and yada, yada. And I kind of. I. I kind of got married. Wait, what? I, like, I. I guess I'm married now. Wait, hold on, hold on. I just. Back the fuck up. What? Well, so there's this guy. We've been kind of hanging out. You know, we kind of met last month and we, you know, he's the one who wanted to go to Vegas. And, you know, I'd never gone and said, yeah, let's go. And then we were down there and we, like, got to this place where they did weddings and stuff, and he just kind of Looked at me and said, do you. You want to get married? And I just said yes. He said, just wait. You said yes? Yeah, I said yes. Fuck is wrong with you? Seriously? You've known him for a month. Like, what? This is a true fucking story, guys. True story. And guess what? Guess what? How many people want to bet that it didn't work out? You don't have to be a rocket science to know this shit, okay? Like, you can look at this shit, at least I would think so. That you can look at this shit and know that it's not going to work out. And then all of a sudden, she's shocked when it turns out that he's a. Some asshole. Well, what did you expect? You expected him to just be like Prince Charming? Because Prince Charming always just, you know, meets you and then a month later wants to fucking get married in Vegas. That's what Prince Charming does. Like, give your head a shit. Seriously. And so, of course, I'm the, right? So once again, I'm the for, like, bringing some sense into this. And then, you know, she's shocked when it doesn't work out. So, yeah, anyways, a couple years ago, when I was in a relationship, I'm in a relationship. Okay, guys, I don't know why, but my external microphone is not reading through my GarageBand app. So I wanted to share just one more story. And like, I said, this is just like off of a little tiny piece of paper that I've got here. I literally could write so much and it would just blow your mind. And I don't talk about things unless I know very well about them. And so anyways, let's get to it. So one last thing. This was. Once again, this was in Australia and this girl, we kind of were talking for a while, and then all of a sudden, we hadn't talked for like a few weeks, maybe like six weeks. And then, you know, we started talking again and she says, I got. I got married. What? Like, with who? Because you. What? How? How, like, that doesn't even make any sense. Why? What. What do you mean you got married? And so she says, well, this guy, he's. He's really nice and, you know, we've been hanging out together and then, yeah, then he asked me to marry him. And this is. This is different than the Vegas girl. Okay? This was. This one was actually just a few years ago when I was in Australia and I was there. I'm like, that's. That's. I think I was a little bit more by this time, I was a Little bit more straightforward. And I was like, that is the dumbest thing that I've ever heard. Why would you do something so stupid? And I, I just basically let her have it because, you know, over time, you just get sick of people just doing dumb. And like, Like, Like I said, you walk into a. A bear country with a backpack full of fish, and you get eaten by a bear. Like, whose fault is that? Whose fault is that? So anyways, there she is, calling me every name under the sun, this and that, yada, yada. You're just an asshole. And blah, blah, blah, like, just going off. And I'm just. Look, I'm just saying, like, how can you think that that's a good idea? He's a nice guy. I'm in love with him, and I'm gonna be a great wife. And you, you're just gonna be alone for your whole life. And she just, like, went off, whatever. And then she finally, like, blocks me or whatever. So six months later, I decide, you know, I had a. Another number, another way to, like, contact her. So I, like, contacted her through there and I said, how are things? She's like, oh, hey, like, how's the married life? Well, we're not married anymore. I'm like, oh, you're not surprising. So why so soon? And so she said, well, if you must know, okay, turns out he was an asshole. And now I've got a restraining order against him and this and that kind of all this, like, terrible shit. He was an asshole, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, okay, so I told you so. Sounds fitting, wouldn't you say? And so, yeah, she. She wasn't too impressed. And I'm like, well, like, you remember how rude you were to me? Do you remember that? You remember calling me all those names? I'm pretty sure I have those text messages as well. Like, I can refresh your memory if you'd, like, remember all the things that you called me, you told me, you said to me all that, said I was going to be alone forever as it's just a miserable, you know, all that kind of stuff. And then, you know, she kind of, like, apologized for it and said, like, look, I'm sorry for that. I just. I don't know. And I'm like, okay, well, just sorry if I came off as an. But as you can see, I was just trying to help you. Help prevent you from experiencing what you're experiencing right now. And is that so bad? Does that. Does that make me a bad person for wanting to look out for you? Wanting to help you in a certain situation where maybe it's not such a good idea for you to do such a thing. And so, yeah, surprising if you meet somebody and get married to them a month later that marriages don't seem to work out. That's, that's crazy. That's, that's shocking actually. That's, that's news that should be like breaking news, you know, that should be like on the breaking news. Should like tell people because you would, you would think that like meeting somebody, you know, after a month and getting married to them that, you know, you would think that, that, that would, that would all work out. But for some crazy reason, like I don't, I just don't know why, but I guess it just doesn't work out. That's, that's interesting. Anyways, guys and gals, these are my, these are my fun stories. And like I said, I hope that you get something from this and I hope that maybe you see it and it helps you or maybe you see it within somebody else and that you can help somebody else with it. That you can help them live and prosper better relationships, meet better people, make better and smarter decisions in their life and their relationships and in their all around situation. That's really the end goal. Okay? And if I got to be the one who takes the arrows in the back to be the asshole in order to bring some sense into this world, then I guess that I, I can handle that. Okay? I can handle that burden. So you don't have to. Okay? You can, you know, just let me do the, do the stuff. But I hope you got something from. This is a long podcast. It actually kicked me out and said I was talking too long and so I had to start a whole new thing. So this could be some editing for on this one and different microphone. I don't know why that one wasn't working. But anyways, anyways, I hope that you listen to this. I hope that you got some from it. Unplugged freedom on Instagram, Unplugged freedom on Telegram. Try to keep up with a lot of things, but it takes a lot of work. I try to do a lot, but yeah, anyways, if you liked it, let me know. Shoot me a message. You have no idea like how much I appreciate that hearing from you guys. You know, just saying like, hey, I listened to the last episode and thought it was really funny when you said this or whatever it is that you guys, you know, comment on. And I just, just, it's, it's so cool because most of the time, I'm just. I'm just talking into, like, nowhere. Like, you should see my little setup of a little booth that I have right now, and it's quite the thing, but I do it and I enjoy it, and I share this knowledge, and I hope that somebody gets something from it. And. And at the end of the day, like, my goal would be for somebody to come back in the future and say, you know, I heard your podcast before, and honestly, I didn't like you from the beginning, but after I listened to you for a while, I kind of understood what you were saying, and I took what you. What you were sharing and I ran with it. And now I'm just living my best life, loving life, and it's all thanks to you. And that's. That's really. Would be, like, the dream. And I've. I've had a lot of messages, you know, from people over the years, and I actually save them. I save a lot of the messages that people save. And just. Because most of the time, it's just me talking, it's just me sharing life experiences, knowledge that I have, experiences that I have, all these different things. It's just me talking and sharing. And. And if somebody gets something from that and it helps them in some way, then fantastic. Like, I love that so much. And that's. That's why I do it, and that's why I started this podcast, because I know that I have a lot of that experience, and I do want to get it out there. And I know that there is people out there either in similar situations, in the same situations, maybe they're coming up to. To a similar situation, and, you know, they're needing advice, they're needing help, they're needing. You're looking for something, and they're tired of looking around for and seeing just the same old advice that is out there that people are just giving. You know, people are just giving, Giving advice that it seems like they just read it off the back of a cereal box. They're sitting there eating their Wheaties, and I'm like, oh, you just gotta keep your head up and you'll get through it. You're just like, that's not what I want to hear. I want to hear, like, something real, something raw, like, tell me. Tell me I'm an idiot. Okay? Tell me. Tell me I'm making the dumbest mistake of my life and that you'll. You'll never speak to me again if I follow through with it. Like, tell me something real, okay? Don't tell me this and so that's. That's. That's what I like to. To just give it. Give it to somebody, you know, what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. A lot of times what I. What I do talk about is not what you want to hear. A lot of times people, you know, they. They might have some certain expectations of what they want to hear, and then all of a sudden, I tell them the complete unexpected thing of what they would be expecting, and then they're like, wow, who the hell do you think you are? I. I don't like you, but I do at the same time. That's a weird feeling. Thank you for that advice. Now I'm going to go, I don't know, change my life for some weird reason because of you. But anyways, guys, I hope I hear from more of you. And if you haven't sent me a message and you have listened to this, please just send a. Hi. Send a message, anything, whatever. It's much appreciated. Always is. And I will talk to you later. Nathan. Unplugged Freedom.